Picture the scene, you fall out with people who turn out to be everything you thought they weren’t. They end up becoming your arch enemies, you want nothing to do with them and the feeling is reciprocated.
Before we had kids I opted for an easy life. I stuck with the same job for over 9 years because I wanted to just earn money and enjoy spending it on myself. It was very selfish but when all I had to worry about was myself, why would I change anything?